All systems of education aim at the education of the whole individual, though in practice they lay undue emphasis on physical efficiency or intellectual alertness or spiritual poise. These are not exclusive of each other. They are essential ingredients of a true system of education.
The Upanishads(ancient hindu texts) tell us that we should aim at “pranaramam”, the play of life, “mana-anandam”, the satisfaction of mind, and “santi-samrddham”, the fullness of tranquillity. The sickness of our society can be traced to one-sided development of education.
Have you ever been in a situation where the mind sits on the fence and argues both ways? This happens to all of us many times in our lives. We get caught in a whirl of thoughts and our mind oscillates between extremes. We try to take one position, but then, another part of the mind takes over and acts like the devil’s advocate and argues against our stand. Something similar situation happens even when we take the opposite view and try to reason for ourselves. For every argument that we put forth, our mind comes up with a convincing counter argument. Click To TweetWe keep doing this and tie ourselves up into knots without arriving at any conclusion.
You are caught between a ‘yes’ and a ‘no’. You keep oscillating between two extremes and are unable to make up your mind, one way or another. This cyclical thought process leads nowhere. The real problem is that we can’t even stop thinking. So, is there a way out of this confusing situation? How do we overcome this dilemma that rages in our minds and makes us so confused?
There are no easy solutions. People might tell you to stop thinking so much, or tell you to make a snap decision and to get it over with. But that’s easier said than done. So, what can you do to pull yourself out of such a jam?
What you can do is to first, perhaps, bounce off your thoughts with your spouse, a family member or a close, trusted friend. Just talking things out aloud might help to clear your mind. Maybe you will come up with the solution yourself by simply voicing your thoughts. Or you may get some good inputs from others who might approach the problem differently and suggest an alternative.
The second approach is to quit the circular thought process. Learn to park issues at the back of your mind. When we do this, we stop our logical mind from analysing and over- analysing the issue. At the bottom of our hearts, we probably recognise the real solution. While our hearts might want one thing, our logical mind tries to come up with counter arguments. Quitting the logical thought process allows us to look deeper into the conflict and help us to… Click To Tweet
If after all this, one is still unable to decide, then just take a decision, either way and prepare yourself to handle what might follow. Be aware of your actions and take responsibility, even if you take a wrong decision. As long as you choose a path that is ethical and correct, you will instinctively make the right decision. Otherwise, accept that to ‘err is human’ and get it over with. And the sooner, the better!
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